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Humans are by nature social beings. You can’t live without crowd whether you go, so there certainly will exist interpersonal relationship. However, birds of the same feather tend to flock together. The relationship is some kind of trouble, because of different kinds of roles and relationship. There is the relationship of superior and subordinate, the fun you join on occasion and the friends who share weal and woe with you. The internal relationship affects our life, work, study, whenever it is. Therefore, how to make ourselves’ relationship full of pleasure?

Someone says that, you can confirm whether one person happy or not through he lives simple or not. It is not that the person’s mind is simple, but an attitude towards life, and the way or skill you treat life. It contains your own relationship. Mory said that you have to recognize that relationship is our basic need, and the importance of it is not lower than the basic necessities of life. There are some people in our life who have many friends, but they get into the trouble of relationship, and they are always get into the trouble of dealing with the complicated relationship. Some people’s relationship is extremely simple, so that they get into the trouble of having no friend. However, there is another kind of person, although they are at the complicated circle of relationship, they still can make a great deal with it, so they won’t be bothered by relationship. But there are more and more people saying  ”how many true friends do I have?” and always complaining that there true friends are too little.

It was mentioned in the passage that “the birds of the same feather tend to flock together”. It is a complicated and confusing problem for the relationship. That one person who wants to mix with the other people may be related to the social position, the certain role he plays and the purpose he wants to get. Just the same as the popular word ”local tyrants, can we make a friend?” Most of the people are just saying it because those who can make friends with them are also tyrants ,which is decided by the social position and roles.

In interpersonal relationship mode has four patterns: I'm not good; You are not good, I am good; You are not good, I am bad, too ;I am good, you are good . The front three models are dangerous and not desirable, but the fourth is too idealistic. So, we can't please all the people around, but we can do it "I have good and bad parts". Carnegie in his book, interpersonal relationship is a rule, there is a science. For example he cites six rules:

1, take an interest in others truly. People are interested in themselves, the hard part is interested in others

2, keep more smile;

3, remember that you may contact person's name. The name is a kind of self-identity. If you remember a personal name on exchanges tend to add very good grades;

4, do a person who is good at listening, encourage others to talk about his own;

5, interest and topic to talk about others;

6, make other people feel important.

But I feel these laws, good is good, but it's hard to do it one by one, like a student learning academic sense, do no way homework is very good, really very difficult. Then the author thinks that, in which one or two have the confidence to do it to remember it, used in practice. Listen to, for example, when you don't know how to insert or talk about the listening is the most effective way.

A harmonious interpersonal relationship easily, can let us keep a good mood, and every day you don't have to worry about relationship, put your whole heart into work. So, how to obtain the harmonious relationship? Here is for everyone to do the reference of some principles and methods to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships:

1, break yourself dusty psychology, in order to get a good relationship, their "lose yourself" in the first place. If his heart can't open, how can accept others, others how to accept you.

2, put yourself in the work. Is the so-called "justice, the same", if chat why should I worry about not to know each other emotions.

3, don't stingy your compliments, praise others, will be affected by other people's praise and love.

4, be a dignity person, and to respect others. Because everyone has respected the psychological needs.

5, be kind, but want to keep a distance with people. Best way of communication is \"is compromise, a distance\", everyone has a personality and self, seeking common ground while putting aside differences is the mainstream. Distance is also at the same time the requirements of individual independence.

People have social need, also have a need to be alone. In a large background, you can't escape from this huge invisible network, and we have to do is: one to keep his heart not to be confusion; Second one was possible in the use of this web rather than to be shackled by the net.

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