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Five psychological skills of self pacified

 

    In work and life, it is hard to avoid conflict. In many cases,  conflict will affect the work and hurt feelings if not controlled, Therefore, grasp the psychological skills of self pacified are very useful for everyone,especially young people.

 

1, keep calm

The three method: "keep calm down voice first; then slowly; finally the chest forward straight.,High voice will let impulse more intense,speaking fast easy impulse,Chest straight can dilute the impulse tension.

2,Listen

It’s absolutely difficult to win minds by quarrels , to get instant results to each other heart to heart, silent to listen when others think you cannot agree, at the time and felt difficult to convince the other side. will make the other party realized, obedient people interested in his views, After impulse can avoid the hurt feelings, often can get ideal results.

3,Transfer of attention

In anger, often intense excitement in the cerebral cortex, resulting in a time of consciousness "narrow" phenomenon, and the harmful excitement will spread further upgrade, even caused the intense conflict be unbearable to contemplate the consequences. Transfer of attention is the role of rational transfer excitement, active cooling, prevent conflict worsened.

4,Transposition thinking

In interpersonal communication process, psychological factors play an important role, people all hope only themselves, they must accept their opinions. However, because of different people in the organization and role in life, in dealing with problems, often due to consider the positions and angles and the different opinions. If both sides stick has not rationally consider each other advice, it is easy to cause conflict. If the two sides in the exchange of views, can exchange the role and place oneself in others' position thinking, will understand each other's motivation and purpose in the comparison, will realize that their views are correct, whether it should be accepted,can avoid the fly into a rage.

5,rationality

When the conflict occurs, in the heart of the estimation of a consequence, think about your own responsibility, will own sublimation is a rational, open-minded tolerance of people, must be able to control your mood, alleviate the tense atmosphere. "I have a gas, lest the hundred days of sorrow", a reasonable compromise is not only beneficial for things, will win others' love, take a step back, to win forgiveness.

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