Mental health articles

A student in a university in HeNan province: I am a ugly and self-abased girl. After college, the dormitory people don't like me, and I don't like them. I don't have a friend, nothing special, the body also is not very good. But I like the sun on my face, like small animals, like a person quiet live, I like a person alone. I was a freshman in college, however, many subjects are fail in the exam, I attempt to pay a lot of money, I whether very bad?

Member of Chinese mental health association, Beijing hui source psychology and education research center director XiaoFeng: "ugly", "there is no special skill", "other people don't like me", "I don't like them… The series of "word" form your opinion of yourself and your relationships with others.

Don't define themselves and others. People's concept and behavior toward themselves and others model will constitute a mutually reinforcing feedback loop, which is positive (negative), the concept of the positive (negative) behavior, and positive (negative) behavior will further consolidate the concept of positive (negative), so if you don't change your concept, might not be make-up examination questions.

You may say: "I have so many shortcomings, it really is objective existence, how can you say me to have a positive evaluation? In my opinion, you is not as bad as you described, for example, if you like the sunshine on the face, like small animals, it shows that you are kind, also means that you are the light and hope. So, here's a look at things in terms of the problem. If you see your strengths, also can see other people's strengths and advantages, is easy to establish confidence in myself, you would be easy to have friendship and goodwill toward others behavior. On the other hand, if you stare at the downside of themselves and others, even the advantages should be counted as something as a weakness, so you must live a depressed, live low, live boring.

Inferior stared at and around negative things, thought that all this is real, then spend considerable courage to convince himself that: "due to the reality, so I what all not line, also won't someone like me." Now, are you the right this time to say "no".

Tags: Health, health psychology, psychology