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How to identify an individual psychological maturity? This is a problem that many people want to know. According to the American psychologist about west psychological maturity of tasks, the typical has the following four practical standards:

"heads up" the opposite sex

Mature relationship: rationally consideration and choose the marriage, and began to prepare for a family independent family life; In behavior to appropriate gender roles. The actual point, is to use easy and natural attitude, in the face of the opposite sex neither too care about each other's opinion of himself, don't overdo to despise or hate each other.

In young people, especially teenagers, may see flushed, and this is because the understanding of the opposite sex is not comprehensive, boys and girls so filled with curiosity, mystique. In addition, although some people won't be rude, but will pay special attention to their appearance and behavior, and consciously to express themselves in order to get the opposite sex, which suggests that the attaching too much importance to the opposite sex recognition, at the same time, it may be in love relationships, unstable factors such as the attraction, passion on stable factors such as intimacy and commitment. Still others, one mouthful a "men have no a good thing" or "the woman is a birth machine", probably because the speaker in the mind have no healing good perceptible. These are not mature enough.

 Second, deny himself

Mature self-identity: acceptance of one's own body and appearance; Not too much to show off your strengths, and too much conceal his own shortcomings, the maximum potential. From teenagers, people self-consciousness started awakening, development growing rapidly, this time is a tendency to self-centered. To 16 years old or so, the idea that their most unique is the most important idea also gradually reduce, but some still plagued by the people in their 20 s and 30 s, for example, when a dispute with the friend clearly wrong "dead duck mouth shut", also killed while fighting with your partner is not willing to compromise, setback blame bad luck world inequality, is not to find their own reasons.

 Third, to learn tolerance

Mature interpersonal relationships, can in daily life with their peers to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships, including gay friends and members of the opposite sex. Put cao prime minister says the proverb, "the duke guan, husband to acceptance quantity", so although "hate injustice like poison", "perfect" are positive, but tolerance of defects and imperfect more a symbol of the psychological maturity. Tolerance means the tolerance and understanding of human nature defects, to understand that "to err is human." the sage, so "is set in place and set".

 Fourth, attaches great importance to the simple

Mature thinking mode: in the knowledge, ideas and so on various aspects, all can reach the standard required as a citizen; On the individual behavior orientation, to establish their own values and morals. For cognitive level, return from complex to simple, like the "see the mountains are not, water is not a" back to "see mountain is mountain, water is the water". Some people like the profound truth, is looking for someone summed up the experience and values, are still at the stage of reference and reference, wait for can be set up to personal experience in independent system, it will like the ordinary life of simple truth.

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